It’s very addictive talking about your problems. And while this topic might get you some sympathy here and there; remember that sympathy can only get you so far.
To get to where you want to get, which is a lot further than where sympathy can get you, you must change the topic. Talk about your joys, talk about your dreams and aspirations, talk about what makes you come alive.
And while this new topic won’t solve your problems any more than talking about your problems will; at least, it will generate a greater state of mind which will bring along the possibility of something great.
The greatness that you desire cannot be called into existence until your habitual subject of discussion becomes greater.